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Death’s closest companion is grief!
Sadness, guilty and tearful feelings - these are the common feelings after a bereavement. The aching pain of bereavement can last for years. Fortunately there are many support resources to help you heal and cope with grief, handle your anger and deal with your guilt.
Complicated grief and unfinished business is a task which needs its attention now. Otherwise you will not be able to move on in your life. Learn how to forgive yourself, find the peace of mind and set new goals for yourself.
YOU CAN’T CHANGE THE DIRECTION OF THE WIND BUT YOU CAN ADJUST YOUR SAILS.
Having lost a family member or a friend is hard enough to deal to most of us but it is even harder if the deceased person left you with unfinished business.
Here's my story ...
I had to face after the death of my husband that’s the truth of my marriage:
My sorrow of losing my husband started to change to anger and I felt rejected, abandoned and betrayed. It evidently did not help that my in-laws decided to bury and cremate my husband’s body without my knowledge or presence. It felt like insult to injury and it prolonged my bereavement process substantially and made my healing process unnecessary complicated.
You might have a child, husband, a wife or a relative or a friend who has caused you financial problems by using and abusing the relationship and your financial means to the limit.
You might have a person in your family who has hurt and harmed you most of your life and has been testing your physical and mental health to the very edge.
Then you evidently know what I'm referring to.
Believe me I know your pain!
Sometimes it becomes so unbearable that I just want to get out of my skin… I even turned to quick and easy fixes… as they seemed to be a good idea at the time…
But, believe me alcoholism, drug use and physical and mental abuse will not make the grieving process go away or any easier.
Grief is still there no matter what has happened in the past and needs to be taken care of.
The only difference is that you do not only have grief and bereavement issues to deal with, but you also have feeling like anger, hatred, guilt and forgiveness to worry about.
And I totally understand you…
You have a double-edged sword in your hands and it certainly feels that it is an uphill struggle to even start thinking about enjoying life again.
But it doesn’t have to be that way… You are alive, your loved one wouldn’t want you to be this way, they want you to keep on living and keep your memories alive.
How to grieve a troublemaker is more than just a manual:
It is a relief guide that will take you from where you are right now to a point of new joy, hope and blessings without you having to forget your love lost one.
It will help you come to terms with your current situation and help you manage it effectively in the shortest possible time.
It explains the complicated grief situation you are facing.
It helps to make sense of all the negative feelings you are experiencing.
It lists 50 ways to help you to deal with your grief.
It helps you to understand anger and forgiveness and why it is vital to deal with these issues as soon as possible.
It gives you an idea of moving forward by talking about the importance of setting goals.
It reminds you that you have what the deceased person does not have… YOUR LIFE.
We do not only mourn for those who cared for us but we also mourn for those who did not give us the love we deserved.
Elisabeth Kubler-Ross.
Take Charge Of Your Life Today
I am fully aware that this is a whole lot more than grieving.
In order to move on in your life, it is vital that you forgive yourself as well as all the people who have done wrong to you.
In the beginning it might even feel like the whole world is against you and finding support and understanding might seem like a useless exercise.
You might hear over and over again that deceased people are a taboo subject in some societies. You are not supposed to talk bad about someone who has passed away simply because he/she is not here any more to defend him/herself.
MOST PEOPLE HARM THEMSELVES BY SUPPRESSING THEIR GRIEF.
FIND OUT WHAT YOU NEED TO KNOW AND MOVING ON IN YOUR LIFE BECOMES SIMPLER.
Here are some common issues, which everyone who has lost a family member will face in one way or another.
1. How long should I grieve?
There is no quick fix for the pain of bereavement. Grievers might wish that they could be over it in a fixed period of time, but grief is a deep wound, which takes a long time to heal. Everybody is unique and the time frame differs from person to person according to each person’s unique circumstances. Research has revealed that an average recovery time is from 18 months to 24 months.
2. I feel sad and angry at the same time. What is wrong with me?
Grieving is a long and complex process and it is even harder when you are grieving someone who has done wrong to you. You need to work through your emotions step by step in order to deal with them properly and have a chance to truly move on in your life. It is a comforting thought that there is literature available, which answers your emotional questions and explains what to expect, what not to expect and how to survive each stage of bereavement. You are not alone even if it might feel so.
3. Should I mourn and moan alone?
Most of the people who are facing a loss of family member benefit the company of other mourners. Do not think that this is the time when you have to be seen strong and independent minded and suffer alone and silently. Do not think that you only burden other people with your problems.
4. Do I actively need to look for other’s company and be more active?
Encouraging the bereaved to maintain their social, civic and religious ties is healthy. Grievers should not withdraw completely and isolate themselves from others. However, it is not helpful to pressure the bereaved into activity which might be seen as a escape from the grieving process. One mourner put it this way: “I am not lonely for the presence of people, I am lonely for the presence of my husband.”
5. Can I rely on time healing my wounds?
Time itself is not the answer to your wounds; it is what you do with your time that matters most.
6. I just do not have time to grieve now.
If you suppress and bury your grief and try to keep yourself busy so that you do not have to dwell on your worries and troubles, grief will stay with you a long time. Unresolved grief will come back and haunt you. It is better to accept your reality and move towards recovery from the pain and other feelings.
7. What do I do when other people are avoiding my company?
The bereaved need and want to talk about their loss and their situation, including the most painful events. Grief shared is grief diminished. Each time a griever talks about the loss, a layer of pain is shed. The people who are most comforting are those who made no attempt to distract the bereaved from their grief.
8. I am still crying a lot. Is this normal or am I heading towards a nervous breakdown?
Tears are nature’s safety valves. Crying washes away toxins from the body which are produced during trauma. This might be the reason why so many of us feel better after crying. It is believed that stress causes imbalance and crying restores balance. It relieves the central nervous system of tension. If we do not cry, that tension does not go away.
9. I have been told that he/she is in a better place now.
People tell me constantly that I will find someone else to share my life with. It is not actually helpful to listen these statements. Avoid listening to any statements which minimize your loss or belittle your situation. Find people who are willing to listen to you compassionately and do whatever they can to ease your burden.
10. I am told that I look ok, almost back to my normal self.
The bereaved look like the non-bereaved on the outside. However, at the interior, they experience a wide range of sometimes very chaotic emotions-shock, numbness, anger, disbelief, betrayal, rage, regret, remorse and guilt to mention few. These feelings are intense and most of the time confusing. Find people who will simply and quietly acknowledge your pain and suffering and offer their help and support.
11. How can I forgive my in-laws (or other relatives) when they do not invite me to the funeral and I am the surviving spouse?
“A service, funeral or memorial provides mourners with a place to express their feelings of grief. The service is a time to express those feelings, talk about the loved one, and begin the acceptance of death. The funereal brings together a community of mourners who can support each other through this difficult time. Many grief experts and those who counsel the grieving believe that a funeral or service is a necessary part of the healing process and those who have not had this opportunity may prolong their recovery” , says Eva Shaw in her book “What to do When a Loved One Dies.” If you do not have a chance to attend your loved one’s funeral, try to find an alternative way to put an end to the matter. If you cannot organize a funeral for some reason, maybe you can plant a memorial tree.
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In one year I lost three family members.
In my case I felt numb when I got the news of my husband’s death. I was willing to give my own life if I could only get him back.
I was painfully aware of how little time we had spent together and during my marriage I kept hoping that we could spent more time together. My husband used our marriage to improve his relationship with his parents.
His death revealed me another inconvenient truth: there were three of us. I was very angry that my husband could not face me and tell me about the other woman. He committed adultery which he did not want me to know and then he died on me. I was angry that he did not value or respect me at all. I was also sad that I did not have an opportunity to say goodbye to him before he passed away. His parents buried and cremated his body without my knowledge and presence. At first they did not even want to let me know his last resting place. Finally I got a map with a cross on it. I cannot say how much their cruel and heartless behavior hindered my grieving process. I have had hard time to forgive them.
During my grieving process I learnt that pain in life is inevitable but suffering is optional. I realized that it is not what has happened to me, it is what I do about it.
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Why people fail to grieve completely? Understand the importance of grieving and particularly that you cannot put if off.
Unfinished business. If a death has happened unexpectedly and you have not managed to say goodbye, it is important that you have some kind of closure before you can move on in your life.
What is grief? A definition of grief and how it can help you to understand your current stage.
The grief experience. What happens during grieving?
How long does grief last? It is always difficult to put a timeframe but it gives you an idea what to expect.
How will I know when I am done grieving? There will be some clues when your pain starts to ease.
When grief is a relief. How to say goodbye to someone who has caused you a great deal of sorrow.
Bereavement. The meaning of the word and its implications to your everyday life.
Complicated grief. When someone’s death is not the only worry you have to deal with.
50 ways to help you in your bereavement process. A helping hand to help you to move forward.
Comforting words. How the words can help you to move on in your life?
What is anger? It is important to be aware of your feelings and be in control.
The nature of anger. Everything you need to know about anger.
Should I keep it in or let it out? What to do when the obvious target of your anger has passed away?
Dealing with anger. How to control your anger and be in charge of your life.
Dealing with fear. Taking the first baby steps.
Forgive yourself. Guilt and blame will not help to build up your new life and the lessons of forgiveness are invaluable to understand, learn and practice.
Goal-setting. Why goals matter?
Set short-term, specific, realistic goals. Learn the nature of goals.
Write down your plan. Why your goals have to be written down and not in your head?
Obtain a means of recording your progress. Why it is important to know if you have achieved your goals?
Put your plan into action. Practical steps to move on.
Be kind and forgiving to yourself. Learn to concentrate on the positive items than the negative ones.
Keep working on your plan-even if you relapse or backtrack. When you fall down, you need to know how to get up and move on.
Here Are Some Myths Which Do Not Help You To Move On.
Life prepares us for loss.
More is learned about loss through experience than through preparation.
Living may not provide preparation for survival.
Handling grief resulting from the death of a loved one is a process that takes hard work.
The fortunate experience of a happy life may not have built a complete foundation for handling loss.
Healing is build through perseverance, support and understanding.
Family and friends will understand. If a spouse dies, children lose a parent, a sibling loses a sibling, a parent loses a child and a friend loses a friend.
Only one loses a spouse.
Each response is different according to the relationship.
Family and friends may not be capable of understanding each other thoroughly.
The bereaved need each other’s company to move on in their lives.
The first year is the hardest. During the first year the bereaved will experience one of everything for the first time alone: anniversaries, birthdays, other occasions etc. The key to handle grief is in what work is done over time. It takes time and work to decide what to do and where to go with the new and changed life that is left behind.
This Is The Beginning Of A Happy New Life
... A Life Without Pain & Grief
Along with the end of grief’s pain comes the end of memories. In learning to let go and live a new and changed life memories tend to come back more clearly. Growth and healing comes in learning to enjoy memories.
The bereaved should grieve alone. The bereaved begin to feel normal again when the experience is shared with others who have lost a loved one. Then in reaching out, the focus of life becomes forward.
When you have suffered the loss of a loved one, life may seem meaningless and you may feel hopeless for months or even years.
Take Charge Of Your Life Today... Embrace Life Again
In this simple yet effective guide, you will find information on the experience of bereavement and advice on ways to come to terms with your loss. This manual, inspired by true life events, will assist you to find meaning, growth and healing along the way.
I understand that no one can stand where you are standing right now and fully comprehend what you have lost. That is for you and you alone to know. During the bereavement your task is to grieve and feel the loss of your family member or a friend. This was my task and you will face the same. Other people’s similar experience might make your life a little bit easier.
Don't Sit There And Do Nothing...
It is easy to remain passive during the grieving process and to see yourself as nothing more than a helpless victim
For this reason, it is important to use your acceptance of the situation as a jumping off point for a renewed commitment to your life. Embracing life again is such an exciting possibility and you are at the point to do just that.
You have explored the grief process and know how to move on. You respect the lives of those no longer with us and appreciate that you need to live joyfully too. Guilt, denial and anger are banished from your outlook and you are emotionally healthy once again.
If you know what to expect, your survival is a little bit easier and perhaps shorter. When a death takes place, you might experience a wide range of emotions, particularly when the deceased has done wrong to you.
The emotions include numbness, denial, disbelief, yearning, anger, humiliation, guilt, shock and sadness. It is vital that you take your time to fully absorb the impact of your loss. You never stop thinking about the loved one, but the pain eases after time and allows you to move on in your life.
When Will You Be Ready To Be Emotionally Free?
Why Not Now?
In “How To Grieve A Troublemaker” you will learn about the mourning process, deal with death, live with your grief and look to the future.ASK YOURSELF WHEN WOULD YOU LIKE TO BE EMOTIONALLY HEALTHY AGAIN AND EMBRACE YOUR LIFE?
You Owe It To Yourself And Your Loved One
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